You dreamed of growing your family. You envisioned it. You planned for it. Then you experienced difficulty conceiving and all of your plans came to a screeching halt. Infertility is a struggle that can leave you feeling completely out of control in your own life. Heartbroken. Angry. Powerless. Frightened. Hopeless. It’s no wonder the experience of infertility is often described as an emotional rollercoaster. It’s devastating to want something so much and wonder if you will find your way there.

 

Perhaps you’ve suffered the gut-wrenching pain of miscarriage. The thought of trying again is terrifying, but you desperately want another baby. It’s hard to trust your own body. Everything you read says it’s not your fault, yet you can’t shake the guilt. 

 

Maybe you’ve lost a precious child, and the longing for what was and what could have been feel all-consuming. You know life will never be the same, and you’re not sure how to make it through the day when a part of you is gone. 

 

It could be that you’re expecting again after a loss. You’re grateful for this new pregnancy, but you’re having a really hard time holding onto any hope; your mind is consumed with what-if’s. 

 

In your family-building journey, it may feel like no one understands the depth of your anguish. Infertility and loss are isolating. Well-meaning friends and family members sometimes say things that make you sad or angry — or worse, they don’t know what to say, so they don’t say anything at all. Maybe the way you’re grieving is different from how your partner is grieving, and that’s causing strife in the only relationship where you can actually open up about all of this. It’s really hard, and can be incredibly lonely. 

 

You don’t have to keep suffering in silence. When you feel so painfully alone, therapy can help provide a safe space for you to process all that you are experiencing. As your therapist, I can help you share, reflect and overcome. Together we’ll explore your grief, manage your worries, and find a path forward.